CONGRATULATIONS to Rachel Turner… winner of the Courageous movie dvd. (please message me your address and I will mail this out today!!) Thanks to everyone for reading and I appreciate the comments that were left!! 🙂
Oh, yeah… today is “Free Giveaway Day” as I was chosen this past week by Focus on the Family as the recipient of the newly released movie, Courageous, to be given away via my blog!! Whoohoo!! I am doing the happy dance!! (hopefully no one was looking)
~To be entered in the random drawing, please leave me a comment (at the end of this post). I would love to hear any stories about how the Courageous movie has affected your family or about a Courageous man you know! If you already own a copy of the movie, feel free to enter anyway and you can pay it forward to someone else! Contest ends at midnight on Tuesday, January 31, 2012. Be sure and check back that Wednesday morning, February 1, 2012, to see if your name was drawn!
Since I am giving away a movie that boldly speaks about the role of the father in a child’s life, I feel I once again need to address this issue. (Click here to read my previous post) Last year my daughter wrote her personal narrative on the pain she experienced as her father walked away from his marriage and family. My daughter’s writing was published in her high school’s Spectrum which is a 300+ page, bound publication of significant writings from that year. I sat down this week and began to read some of the other pieces that were submitted. I was shocked and brought to tears as I read story after story of how deeply affected so many of the teens had been due to their parent’ separations or divorces… most of them were angry and extremely hurt by their fathers; it seemed to be the underlying theme. Each life was shattered… each heart was broken… And there was my Savannah’s piece, right in the middle. Once again, her story brought me to tears as the scars began to bleed and I relived the painful memories and emotions through her words.
I am not posting the narrative that my daughter wrote. Although she did give me permission to do so, she insisted that the article in its entirety be allowed. However, I felt there were a few parts that were just too personal to share at this point in our journey… maybe a later date would be better. I am quoting just a few of her statements that will allow your heart to feel some of the agony that many children experience when a parent leaves the home and family.
A few tearful words from my teenage daughter:
“I felt the guilt of the broken family, even though I did nothing wrong. I began to believe no one could relate to me, I felt alone.”
“The day he left was the day my life became a living hell. A lonely, heart-wrenching, never ending journey.”
“The days dragged on; the months lengthened, the pain remained overwhelming. My school grades dropped; my athletic ability dragged; my body weakened. Life felt unbearable, and no matter how hard I tried, I could not shake the agony. Nothing I did or said would convince my father to come home, but I continued to long for my family, and for my parents’ love to rekindle.”
“I stopped answering my dad’s phone calls; I stopped sending him texts; I stopped seeing the face of betrayal”
“…I refused to be a statistic, but I became closer than I realized. 63% of youth suicides, 90% of all homeless and runaway children, 71% of all high school dropouts and 85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home. Because my father left I am 6.6 times more likely to become a teenage mother and 33 times more likely to be seriously abused. “
“The one who held me first when I came out of my mother’s womb, the one who raised me as a daddy’s girl, and lectured me on the evil ways of men. The same man that would kiss my forehead every night as he laid me down to bed, was once again, gone.”
Such sad words and frustrated emotions.
My poor daughter and sons…
The deep wounds and scars that will forever be a part of their lives…
The baggage they will now carry with them into their own marriages…
I posted her honest words with the hope of saving just one family… just one son or daughter. If you are a father or a mother who is entertaining thoughts of leaving or taking that next step towards an affair… just don’t do it! Turn around and run; don’t walk, run towards home. Have the courage to do what is right and fight for your spouse and your children. God is always right there with you. He will guide and strengthen you to become Courageous; full of character, integrity and honor!
There is such beauty when relationships are healed and families are restored; when we stand our ground, live out our roles and love our spouses and children with complete and self-sacrificing abandon… the way we are loved by our Almighty, Heavenly Father.
May you find the beauty in today,
“He has made everything beautiful in its time” (Ecclesiastes 3:11)
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